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Whatever your opinions are of what Beaver Phillips espouses, one thing that can’t be denied: he has the confidence necessary in any good salesman. That doesn’t necessarily mean that what he’s selling is snake oil, however. While I have not read the book, what I’ve been able to ascertain so far is that he suggests some tried and true communication methods – and as I’ve said, he’s also not deceptive. He steers relationship-starter conversation toward what he’s looking for. I’m reminded of Bill Clinton. I believe he once told an interviewer that the secret to getting to know and develop relationships with women is listening. Anyone will respond if the other person takes a genuine interest in them. Listening (as opposed to guiding or suggesting ways to fix things) is at the heart of this. A man who cares enough about the woman he’s with to listen well will inevitably make a good impression. If the woman is looking for the same thing and both parties cut out the pretenses, the odds are good that that will be the result.

Almost makes it sound easy

But it isn’t. It takes time and dedication. Phillips puts it this way:

Guys, picking up a woman that you know nothing about is hard. Rejection is inevitable and that gets really old really fast. Enter a club or bar and chances are there will be women in there. No matter how good you might become at “picking up chicks” in bars ultimately what do you know about who you are picking up? Nothing! Going out to bars should be reserved for hanging out with friends, grabbing some drinks, and watching the game. Forget about subjecting yourself to rejection from average chicks and bar flies. Life is too short and can be a lot more fun!

Fear of rejection kills opportunity

That is what holds most people back in life. Beaver Phillips knows this, too, which is why he suggests certain communication tools to streamline the process. It won’t work with all women, that’s for sure. But it is focused and targeted, while also being honest. Honing the approach, using humor and recognizing the signs that it’s time to move on are his stock in trade.

The book retails for $30. That’s more expensive than this kind of information should be, I believe. Common sense and being a good listener go a long way. There are no payday loans or cash advance for that kind of thing. Be confident in who you are without being conceited, work to be well-rounded, add dashes of humor to your conversation style and don’t be afraid. That’s a tall order for some, but it’s worth the work. Beaver Phillips would tell you the same, but he’d charge you $30 first.

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Everyone wants to meet that special someone. Sometimes, that someone is Mr. Right. Other times, that someone is Mr. Right Now. Substitute Ms. depending as suits your proclivities. Balancing your needs, desires and goals is the only true way for you to find out exactly what kind of a relationship is best for you. Whatever the answer, it definitely takes work (and money – payday loans or cash advance, anyone?)

Even then, it can be a daunting challenge. What would you think of someone who sums up his day’s work as follows: “I copy and paste E-mails to women on the Internet and I bang them.” Would you find it insensitive? Disgusting? Unbelievable? Admirable? That depends upon your perspective, standards and values. For Beaver Phillips, it’s a calling.

And he’s written a book about it

“Copy, Paste & Bang: A Man’s Guide To Meeting Women On the Internet and Having Sex With Them” is the title of the 37-year-old single guy’s book. It is billed as a “no fluff” guide to helping men achieve exactly what the title describes. Ignore the societal stigma for a moment and look at things from the perspective of having the greatest amount of safe, healthy fun in the shortest amount of time (the days we have to live). Then you’ll understand where Beaver Phillips is coming from, at least.

What kind of man does this? He has to be an alpha male, right? Not at all. Beaver Phillips describes himself as an “average guy” with “average looks, income and intelligence.” A guy who hangs with his buddies and appreciates everyday manly things, so to speak. A guy who knows how to find women and have sex with them.

He’s done the bar scene

Phillips knows what he wants and he isn’t deceptive about it. In the disclaimer to his book, he tells readers looking for advice on how to build a long-term relationship that this isn’t the place to find it. There are certain principles that will work in that arena, but his purpose is to guide readers toward quick results. His opinion is that online dating sites are the way to go, over the traditional bar scene. That’s too expensive and the chance for rejection is much higher. Phillips feels that online dating is more focused and the pool of potential matches is much larger. Reading profiles, exchanging a few important E-mails, making telephone contact then arranging to meet is a path that’s easier to navigate – and once you get the hang of it, you learn not how to manipulate the opposite sex, but how to be honest with yourself, let loose and have fun. Phillips’ intent is to help you find like-minded individuals.

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We’ve all had our break-ups, but it is never a reason to commit a felony

A woman in Indiana has had a serious falling out after her most recent relationship has gone up in smoke, along with her freedom, in all likelihood.   Now, we all know that some relationships are in and of themselves bad, and that some breakups get incredibly ugly.  It’s a fact of life, and as unfortunate as it is to have to deal with the loss of the bonds you have with someone you once loved and the subsequent pain and heartache, a person must bear in mind that some good will come of it eventually.  Also, domestic abuse is something nobody should ever have to take.  Although it is natural to have frustrations with your partner, it isn’t anywhere within any bounds whatsoever to abuse them, mentally or emotionally, and it is also wrong to take it.  All this being said, there are normal, constructive, and ultimately legal ways to handle these things.  You don’t have to resort to anything insane in order to cope.
According to a police report, a 26 year old woman has set fire to a block of storage units, and has been arrested on the charge of arson, a felony.   Now she may be needing payday loans for a lawyer.  What evidently has happened was that after a long, on-going domestic dispute with a former boyfriend, she took his clothes to the storage units in order to dispose of them.  She set fire to the clothes, and then left them to burn, which caused fire to spread to the rest of the building, which burned down.  The total damage was $100,000 in lost property, and she was taken into custody on Wednesday in Anderson, Indiana.  (Sources do not indicate whether or not the woman was a redhead.)  She was booked into the Madison County Jail, and then later released upon posting $20,000 bond.  Her court case is pending.

This was NOT a disco inferno

A cheery fire is great.  A loved one’s things, as well as an entire storage facility being set ON fire are not.  That is a felony.  Now it is a serious thing, this monumental of a mistake, but it is slightly humorous.  (Anyone remember the jilted astronaut who drove several hundred miles wearing a NASA diaper to confront her ex-boyfriends’ lover?)  Just bear in mind, that in a sudden emergency, where you have a financial gap to cover, you have sensible options to look to, such as payday loans instead of, say, setting anything on fire.

There are many reasons why you might use quick payday loans. An unexpected bill can arrive at an inappropriate time, or maybe your car breaks down and you won’t be able to get to and from work because of the lack of extra funds to cover the cost. People use quick payday loans in emergency situations. Not only can they save you money by helping you avoid bounced checks and late fees on a bill, but they can help get you out of a heartrending, disastrous situation. I would like to share a story of a really great friend of mine.

Best Friends Forever

Megan grew up in a loving home in Parker, Colorado. Although she was raised in a family that did not indulge in many of the material luxuries in life, such as fancy cars and mansion-like homes, she was the happiest kid on the block. Megan, along with her two sisters and a brother, were the most polite and well-behaved children I could remember during my childhood. They were thankful and treasured every little thing they had. I met Megan in my second grade class and became friends immediately. We went everywhere together; school, church, and every recreation event. For almost two years, for extra money, we even waitressed at the same restaurant. I became a part of her family as much as she became a part of mine.

We Said Goodbye and Went Our Separate Ways

Megan’s father was a school bus driver and her mother worked as a housekeeper. Although both her parents had never completed high school, education was a must in their family.  Not only were they polite and well-behaved, they were the brightest kids I knew. Come to think of it, Megan was always my tutor during my high school days. If I had a question or was unsure of something regarding any school assignment, I was sure I’d find peace of mind through Megan and her family. We went our separate ways after high school. Megan was offered a scholarship to attend one of the best schools, and considering the fact she came from a family that was in need of an extra cash flow, she was thrilled to be offered such an opportunity. We tried to stay in contact and exchange on-line memos as much as possible. After a period of time, I received an unexpected call from her, excitingly announcing her engagement with “the sweetest guy” she’d ever met. After her marriage, our relationship was put on a complete halt – until our reunion last year. I would never have guessed what she had endured.

What Really Happened?

A couple months into her marriage things got pretty ugly. It turned out “Joe” was not the man she thought he’d be. She was his prisoner, restricted from the world. Fortunately, she was able to keep a part-time job. Since she was cut off from her family, friends and her personal assets, her situation only got worse. It breaks my heart just thinking of it. She detailed the terrible aspects of her marriage (which I prefer not to enclose) and how she found the strength to escape.

Hope, Recovery, and Quick Payday Loans

Bottom-line is I’m glad Megan is doing better now. She would not be here today if she hadn’t escaped when she did. Her scars are still visible, but if it weren’t for the help of loyal friends, their support and a couple of quick payday loans, she probably would not have had the chance for her wounds to heal. Payday loans have saved many people from heading towards a tragedy and have also provided assistance to recovery – even with something as devastating as Megan’s.