Fatherless children have a hard time
Steve McNair, Jr. (Photo: BullDawgJunction.com)
People are still clamoring for a look at that Mechelle McNair picture or those Sahel Kazemi pictures that will make their day complete. I spell them correctly here; what the dull unwashed windows of eyes are blinking for are “michelle mcnair picture” and “sahel kamezi pictures.”
Let’s cut to the chase here
We are a voyeuristic culture. We love to rend the meat from the bone and lick our fingers. I’m sure there were people lined up with photos to sell to the paparazzi. Hey people, next time you should try personal loans and installment loans if you need money. The vulture route of selling pictures of the dead and mourning smells too much like rotten meat.
I want to talk about Steve McNair’s sons
Without knowing all of the intimate details of the relationship between Steve McNair and mistress Sahel Kazemi, it would appear that he may have been trying to break off the affair and she snapped. Particularly since police have now confirmed that Kazemi had gunpowder on her hands. In light of that, as well as where the gun was found (under her body) and that she suffered just a single shot to the head, it appears that the murder-suicide theory is correct. And Mechelle is reported to have known nothing about the affair, so Steve was apparently living a double life. The level of deceit needed to maintain such a thing boggles the mind, but more importantly, it leaves me wondering what kind of message Steve McNair was sending his sons.
Where is the outrage?
That’s what E.C. Thompson wants to know on his blog of the same title. Here you have a married man in his later 30s, a man with four sons. Steve McNair has a great responsibility to them, one that goes far beyond contributing money. Children need guidance. It is the job (and should be the honor) of any parent to provide this for them, with love. Jason Whitlock of the Kansas City Star has the right idea when he says that Steve McNair’s sons are now denied having their father because dad failed to focus on what was truly important in life. Whether or not there were marital difficulties between Steve and Mechelle (and there most likely were), Steve McNair owed his sons more than he gave.
The legacy continues
Steve McNair is going to miss his son’s football career. Cindy Adams of Examiner.com presents us with Steve McNair, Jr., a budding football star in his own right. He has been offered scholarships to attend the University of Tulsa, West Virginia, Mississippi and Southern Mississippi. The Oak Grove High receiver out of Hattiesburg, Mississippi is currently on Tulsa’s 2010 recruitment list, so the Drillers may have secured the young wide receiver who caught 58 passes for 962 yards and eight touchdowns.
But back to E.C. Thompson on Steve McNair
Thompson takes the Steve McNair tragedy and looks at it from the standpoint of what’s happened in the Black community. As an African-American surgeon, Thompson holds a position of respect within the community, and his opinion is well-expressed and poignant. He references a mass anti-union push that began in 1980 under President Reagan, and while he admits that he doesn’t have hard data, Thompson believes that many of the union workers who lost their jobs were black. Outsourcing first began to grow in earnest at the time as well, which lessened job prospects. It is Thompson’s belief that this lack of hope was a major wedge in the black community that led to the distressing statistics of there being multitudes of black men in prison.
Enter Steve McNair
True, Steve McNair wasn’t in jail and he wasn’t a dead beat dad. He had a very successful NFL career as a quarterback. He was perhaps the most successful African-American signal caller since Warren Moon. Where did he fail, then? Here’s Thompson’s position:
McNair had an obligation to guide his young boys through the hazards that afflict all young Americans, but especially those that have ensnared so many young black men. All McNair had to do was to stay on the path. He had made it out of the inner city (da’ hood). Imagine being a multimillionaire. You have every creature comfort you need. Your only job is to be a husband and father. That’s it. (I’m not saying that being a husband and father is easy. I’m not saying that being Steve McNair was easy. I’m saying that he made it through the tough parts.) You can’t tell me that McNair wasn’t on Easy Street.
Yes, he didn’t need personal loans or installment loans. But the real question is, will Steve McNair’s sons find a new male role model? I believe they will, and it could be a family member. That would be ideal. When a father or a mother isn’t available, a village can raise a child if they care enough.
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Please leave Steve McNair’s wife and children out of this mess. They are victims of this nightmare. Let them deal with this how they want. They can give you nothing. Please leave them alone.
I agree with MD. The media should leave Steve McNair’s children alone. They really don’t deserve to be publicized in such a fashion; they are going through so much right now. And don’t forget about Michele. Not only has this woman lost a husband, but she is just finding out that her marriage was all a lie. That the love of her life has been unfaithful and now she will forever be left with unanswered questions.
At this point, let the family have some peace. However, Steve did make some bad decisions and it’s sad to know that his sons will not have a father to help guide them because he was still trying to live the single life. I do understand that every marriage has its problems. In most cases, men turn to another woman. In this case, it caused Steve his life. We all have to lead by example. This is a prime example of the devil’s work like his mother said.
The children need to be left alone. The family should be given an opportunity to grieve. The wife knew people. If Steve was not spending time with her. Please but leave her alone because it is embarrassing. She needs a chance to heal. God bless Steve’s family. And people remember nobody is perfect. But certainly do not take your life or another’s life just because things are not going your way. I look at it like this if he cheated on his wife he will certainly cheat on you. So, what people are doing it everyday and will not stop because of it.
I find it hard to believe that as bold as Steve was with his extra marital affairs (let’s be real, this was not the first … it was the last and the deadliest – that Mechelle, his wife, had no clue). I believe not only Steve, but she owed it to her kids to wake up out of the “denial” or “look the other way as long as he is taking care of home” role and fix this situation. Steve’s crazy mistress could have done more unspeakable things, like take out the whole family. In my opinion – this should be a wake-up call to all the cheating lying men, men trying to find themsleves through younger (niave) women during their mid life crisis, their buddies and so-called friends that knew and support his deceits, the wives that live in denial and the stupid women looking for a free ride and think there is no ultimate price to pay!
A pro athelete cheating on his wife- stop the presses! Now there’s something you don’t see everyday.
Look Mcnair’s children may have to go on without their father but I think he has left them several millions of dollars to help them get through. Fatherless kids who get in trouble hardly have moms worth millions.The Mcnair boys, like their dad, are on easy street.
The problem with fatherless children is that mom is working two jobs and nobody’s raising the kids. In Mcnair’s case, moms can be at home 24/7. The fatherless children rules don’t apply when mom has several million. Frankly, for Mechelle, this is financially better tahn divorce. Emotionally, I’m sure she would still rather have her son’s father there to help raise four kids.
While I certainly dont condone extramarital affairs or anything of teh sort I do not belive that it is to be assumed that just because one is a bad spouse means one i also a bad parent. True they often do go together but come one, we dont n=know what type of guidance he provided for his boys. One can be an adulterer and a father to his children. I just don’t understand the logic behind deamonizing him in every way possible. Please let teh McBNair family have their grief. From what I understand Steve had ana excellent bond with his brothers as well as many young boys from High Schools in Mississippi, so im sure he put his role as father first. This article is ludicrous.
man leave monty (steve) out of the mess. he is proballi lost and confused already. i feel like crying for him. i remember when he was going to mount olive school with me we was so in love