The ol’ online date and hitch
Your budget is a microcosm of your life. I know that’s a scary prospect for many people, considering how often they may use no fax payday loans and credit repair to keep the boat afloat. Setting goals to put your ducks in a row is important when it comes to your money, and it is even more important when it comes to success in your personal life. If you’re anything like Neenah Pickett, 43, you may just have the wherewithal to find a mate online and marry. She set a goal to find a husband in 52 weeks.
Jessica Ravitz reports for CNN that Pickett’s mission of amour is being chronicled on her Web site. She’s asking anyone to weigh in with advice on how to find the right man fast. By Pickett’s own admission, she isn’t a reality TV addict who is screaming for attention. 52weeks2findhim.com is merely her way of taking the reins.
“I’m past the stage of believing it’ll just happen,” she said.
Hard work
“I can’t believe how hard it is,” she said of the journey so far. “But that’s why the deadline is so important.”
Evidently. Over the past two months, Neenah Pickett has have more dates than she’d had over the past two years. But her eyes remain on the prize. Yet I would ask whether a deadline could damage the quality of her search. Ravitz wonders the same thing. Experts the caliber of “The Love Guru” Blaire Allison are skeptical:
It sounds good from a marketing standpoint, but life doesn’t work like that. It’s OK to say, “I want to be a partner in a law firm in three years,” but we’re taught to not be open about our desires about marriage, because we don’t want to scare off the guy. You end up attracting men who want the same thing as you.
Possible but unlikely
“Love Doctor” Sam van Rood finds the love deadline Pickett has adopted to be “a risky approach,” while psychotherapist Janet Page, who teaches a course entitled “Find Your Dream Mate While Finding Yourself: The Twelve-Month Plan,” believes it can happen if seekers also put the work into discovering themselves. Interestingly, she also is a strong advocate of the simple smile… with one little caveat:
Women who don’t smile are perceived as hostile. Women perceive men who don’t smile as being unsafe… but of course, your best smilers in the world are sociopaths.
Pickett’s view is that the deadline will help her focus. Her “grand effort,” as she puts it, is her inroads to determining whether she can make room in an already “a full life” for a man to share her life with. However, even if the experiment fails, Pickett claims she’ll dust herself off and re-evaluate… after a rest period. Ravitz takes the snapshot:
“At that point, I’ll probably need a year off from dating.”
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Oh, gosh. I suppose it would be very easy to open the flood gates and dump on this woman, but it really is hard enough to find someone interesting enough to date, let alone marry. 52 weeks just isn’t enough time – unless you’re only concern is THAT you’re married and not WHO you’re married to. According to her website, she’s got 37 weeks left. I seriously doubt it will happen, but I wish her luck.
I wish her the best. Marriage is a huge commitment. To have a strong, effective marriage you must make proper steps and preparation as well as be willing to make sacrifices and new changes. It would be best to take your time on getting to know your significant other before you jump into the wedding lock. Neenah, choose your man wisely and again, I wish you the best!
Maybe a better goal would be to find a serious relationship that has potential?